I have a child who developed autism shortly after her first birthday and I describe my life since it is easy. However, today reminds me how lucky I am. Through various invasive procedures, infinite patience and persistence, my son has become a nice young man who can now make most land sites accidentally open up and swallow me.
My son is eighteen, physically very able, with a great sense of balance and hand / eye coordination. He is now easy to care, despite limited use language to communicate, which is very hard on other ways to let people know what they want and need.
Other boy I know is also very difficult to communicate. However, he is not as physically able, in fact, he is in a wheelchair. Now, eight years has become a little frustrated individual who likes to be enforced whenever possible. Unfortunately, that makes it increasingly difficult for her mother to look after it and carry it out alone. Not only is it getting bigger and heavier, but where once he was happy to be pushed by his mother where he chose, now holds any anything that can get their hands to prevent the wheelchair in motion, especially if it means leaving somewhere enjoying.
Grills, gates, light poles are becoming dangerous and is now mastered the art of the wheelchair equivalent of an emergency stop, applying the brakes when the President is moving.
The last time she did her mother had taken him to a playground and had been reluctant to leave. Needless to say, had little fingers interlaced about all he could handle in the path back to the car. Her mother sees the biggest problems once they reached the vehicle as soon as they arrived at the range got his keys to open the car by remote control.
The plan was to make the transition from car seat as quickly as possible, but his son had other ideas. He got the brake, the President of the rush end and keep it upright dropped the keys down the drain. The mother just sat on the curb and laughed. He that failure would have cried and I know from experience that once you start you can take much time to stop.
Hearing that story made me once again give us realize how lucky I am.
One thing that has made a considerable difference to the lady in question would have been a partner to help her – a friend – another pair of hands. Over the years I have come to know one thing with security and they are the people who need help most are the least likely to ask for it.
I would like bear that in mind next time you think about your friend, relative or neighbor walk and imagine a day in their shoes.Sometimes, even the smallest, the simplest can mean both and the difference between being able to cope not.Think or the person who is leaving home and no visitors. What about the elderly couple who have difficulty get the newspaper to collect himself every day? What about the young mother who is desperate for sleep, but can not leave your baby?
I am fortunate that I have a circle of friends of my son. These people have their best interests at heart and doing fun stuff with him. You are given the opportunity to enjoy a variety of activities, and gives me a break from having to be fully responsible for all the time. All are volunteers and help because they want to. They derive much pleasure from the association as my son does and we all benefit from the relationship.
My circle also allows me to give quality time to family members. Often disability divide in two families and I know several couples who are always different activities for their "normal" children are not disadvantaged. Some even take separate vacations.
Being a parent is never easy, but when you have a child with a disability in the family unit is often under pressure. Many couples and can not take more than some mothers (and fathers) left to cope alone. I know we all live in a busy world, but most of us could, if we wished to spare a few hours a month to help someone in need.
Believe me, you can make a big difference.
About the Author:
Jean Shaw is the author of I’m Not Naughty – I’m Autistic and Autism, Amalgam and Me – www.jeanshaw.com
For more information on autism and how to form a circle of friends
Article Source: ArticlesBase.com – Autism And Disability – Why Little Things Can Mean A Lot
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